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Message started by Conquer on 4th May, 2018 at 6:54pm

Title: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by Conquer on 4th May, 2018 at 6:54pm
I know is really not good to compare people in general. But if somebody knows the cultures whats the difference between the lao, Vietnamese and Khmer wife?
Tanks

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by Admin Saovaluck on 5th May, 2018 at 6:49am
I don't think the culture of a girl is important when you fall in love with them.

It's a multicultural society in every country because it's easier to travel all over the world, and migrate these days.

A Lao girl may dress and eat differently in Laos, but most of them are willing to change and blend into their new society if they moved to another country to live with their husband.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by daft on 6th May, 2018 at 7:46am
It seems the biggest difference is not between southest asian nationalities, rather it is beteween city-girl or country-side girl. If, for instance, one meets a Bangkok, Phnom Phen, or Ho Chi Minh City lady they are more world-wise and cynical, whereas a country-side girl is usually a little more naive and trusting.

If you are looking for a lifetime wife then country-side girl frequently is the better choice. If you want party/shopping girl, city-girl is for you.

  No matter what the heart is most important; there are country-side girls with a bad heart and city-girls with a good heart, you never know.
Don't be fooled by outside beauty...sometimes a blind man is a better judge of character, not be dazzled by beauty alone.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by Buk Nut on 7th May, 2018 at 12:18am
You can't just pluck your average lao girl from small town laos and put her in Midwestern USA and expect her to be able to adapt to the food, weather, culture etc. A lot of the women in Isaan got farang husbands but they still live the way they grew up because the man came to live with them. Most of those women adapt poorly to western living unless they're from Bangkok, Vientiane etx and have been exposed to that culture for a long time. Obviously the hookers in pattaya can easily get along in the west, at least the ones that work at farang bars

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by Admin Saovaluck on 7th May, 2018 at 5:15am

Buk Nut wrote on 7th May, 2018 at 12:18am:
You can't just pluck your average lao girl from small town laos and put her in Midwestern USA and expect her to be able to adapt to the food, weather, culture etc.


Lao girls who move to the USA won't change instantly, but they will change over time and adapt to their new culture. There are hundreds of thousands of Lao people living in the United States of America today and they've all settled in to the point that they don't want to return to live in Laos.




Buk Nut wrote on 7th May, 2018 at 12:18am:
A lot of the women in Isaan got farang husbands but they still live the way they grew up because the man came to live with them.

The Issan ladies with their western husbands who came to live with them are still living in Thailand together. In this situation it's the guy who needs to adapt to the Thai or Issan culture. The Issan ladies will continue to live the way they grew up because they are still living in the same environment.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by daft on 7th May, 2018 at 9:24am
  Too often the western man marries an asian wife for purely selfish reasons. Their heart is not good, they just want a "trophy wife". This is a recipe for a bad marriage.
Men, all men, need to look inside their own heart; if you want a maid to cook and clean, hire a maid. If beauty is everything, then become a billionaire like our President. But if matrimonial bliss is the goal, then purify your heart and be prepared to make sacrifices. This modern world is hard on long-term love...just look at divorce rates everywhere they are going up.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by Buk Nut on 9th May, 2018 at 4:14am

Hmm, I think the Lao people in the US and France are mostly refugees and their descendants from the Vietnam war..they aren't Lao people who got up and left Laos. Maybe there are some women who married a western guy and moved there but not a huge amount.


daft wrote on 7th May, 2018 at 9:24am:
  Too often the western man marries an asian wife for purely selfish reasons. Their heart is not good, they just want a "trophy wife". This is a recipe for a bad marriage.
Men, all men, need to look inside their own heart; if you want a maid to cook and clean, hire a maid. If beauty is everything, then become a billionaire like our President. But if matrimonial bliss is the goal, then purify your heart and be prepared to make sacrifices. This modern world is hard on long-term love...just look at divorce rates everywhere they are going up.



And as for western men being selfish and wanting a maid, I feel like the problem is them not understanding the culture and not understanding the girl as a person. If you're living with someone it helps to understand them and what they think, rather than to just live with someone who doesn't even love you but stays because you have money. Also people have different ideas of beauty so you can't just say one needs to be a billionaire to get a beautiful wife. In my opinion Melania Trump isn't even beautiful looking.

I think couples back then wanted to divorce badly too because passion dies over time but they just held out and stuck it through because divorce was rather frowned upon back then and they wanted to keep the family together. Now more people are getting divorced because of the more relaxed attitude towards divorce and weakening social customs, not because people back then had some kind of amazing love or something like that.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by daft on 11th May, 2018 at 5:56am
True most Southeast asians came in the 1970's-80's. Some still trickle in, either via family or matrimony. Vietnamese and Hmong mainly, with a few Khmer, Thai, and Laotian sprinkled in.
  While beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in the U.S.A. money matters above all, so it is imperative to have a big pile of cash when wife-shopping.
  Capitalism is not conducive to stable marriages. Correctly written that social pressure kept many marriages intact, but now we have swung to the other extreme where marriages are abandoned at first hint of trouble or inconvenience.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by cathy on 3rd Jun, 2018 at 9:13am

daft wrote on 11th May, 2018 at 5:56am:
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  While beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in the U.S.A. money matters above all, so it is imperative to have a big pile of cash when wife-shopping.
  Capitalism is not conducive to stable marriages. Correctly written that social pressure kept many marriages intact, but now we have swung to the other extreme where marriages are abandoned at first hint of trouble or inconvenience.


I will have to disagree with you. Only golddiggers and douchebags care solely about money when choosing a spouse and those type of people are generally looked down on. People of all economic backgrounds get married in the US. Marriages end for many reasons. Frankly speaking, sometimes staying together hurts the family more than getting a divorce- such as if the one of the parent is abusive.

Title: Re: Comparison of Lao, Viet, Khmer wife
Post by daft on 7th Jun, 2018 at 1:54pm
Sure someone living in a shack can look down upon someone living in a mansion. And without money, in the U.S.A., the shack-dweller is doomed to a life of instability and insecurity. A single trip to the hospital can mean a lifetime of debt-slavery. The lure of security is attractive for all people.
  Certainly some marriages are ill-advised, some are blissful; most lie in between. It is the rising divorce rate of the in betweens that concerns social stability.
  If there were a waiting period, say 3 months, before people could be married then perhaps there would be less failed marriages.

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