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6th Feb, 2010 at 12:14am
 
I hear about it a lot, people getting arranged marriage in Laos. Seems like that's still the tradition in Laos.

I was wondering what people think about this, how does it work, what do the parents look for in a mate for their son/daughter that they are trying to marry off. Do Laos youths still agree and abide by this and follow through with the marriage and if so, does it work or even last. Someone is trying to set me up with an arranged marriage but I'm a bit afraid. I keep hearing about these marriage frauds but that won't happen to me cause I'm poor, she's rich, haha. Anyways let me know what's up before I marry a Laos girl, what should I know before I become a prisoner of love.
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Re: Arranged Marriage
Reply #1 - 6th Feb, 2010 at 2:28am
 
People in Laos meet each other in many different ways. It could be through parents, relatives, friends, in a club, school, workplace or on the streets.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter how I think, it matters how you think and what will work well for you, and importantly if you really connect and love each other. Some people believe in love at first sight.
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Re: Arranged Marriage
Reply #2 - 7th Feb, 2010 at 1:01am
 
Admin Saovaluck wrote on 6th Feb, 2010 at 2:28am:
People in Laos meet each other in many different ways. It could be through parents, relatives, friends, in a club, school, workplace or on the streets.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter how I think, it matters how you think and what will work well for you, and importantly if you really connect and love each other. Some people believe in love at first sight.

Very wise and carefully constructed word,You are using. I know he going to find fault on that for sure......let wait and see what he can come up with......
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Reply #3 - 7th Feb, 2010 at 3:28am
 
What's love got to do with it, got to do with it....

I think this is a common thing in Laos cause I've seen many people get married this way. Mostly it's the rich people who do this cause they don't want their son/daughter to marry just anyone. They worry about losing their status and money.

Who pays the dowry and how much is it usually? How much do they spend on an engagement ring and things like the wedding. Is there a place that Laos people prefer to have a wedding and what is the traditional ways and ceremonies. I'm asking since I've never witnessed a wedding in Laos before even though my friend is going to get married there this year. Maybe I will do the same soon, haha.
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Reply #4 - 7th Feb, 2010 at 10:23am
 
Buk Hoo Kee, Most people who want to save money have their wedding at home. People with money rent a place and even eat in a restaurant.

The traditional ways and ceremonies will take forever to explain. Basically, there's a sookwan (or baci ceremony as some people call it).

The guy pays the dowry, it doesn't matter how much. It can be 1 cent if the girl and her family is rich and they don't want anything from you.
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Reply #5 - 24th Feb, 2010 at 2:01pm
 
one thing I know for sure is there is less divorce in organised marriage,
people might frown upon it as old fashion, but think about it:

Our parents surely have more experiance in life, so if both parents agreed on a marrige, it usually means that they think that the couple is compatible, and very often they're right.
If we try to choose ourselves it's just emotion and to satify our hormone's desire.
So I vote for arranged marriage, sadly mine wasn't.
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Reply #6 - 24th Feb, 2010 at 7:40pm
 
Arrange marriage is great, at least you are guaranteed to have a partner for life. Smiley Also, it is important if you marry Lao women it is best to remain in Laos and live there for the rest of you life.  The reason for this is if you bring them to America or any other countries, their minds and ideas get corrupted by the west and you'll be left brokenhearted in the end.  I'm not saying all Lao women will do this, but, it tends to happen.  Also look at the divorce rate in the west, especially US.  It is in the high percentage people don't take wedding VOWS seriously anymore.  For example, my brother has been married for 10 years with 2 kids, the wife split...screwed him over.  He's pretty much broke.  Ever since then I got fed up with women in America.  I don't plan on marrying anyone here.  It's a disgrace.  Hopefully, one day I'll head back to Laos and spend the rest of my life there.
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