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19th Jan, 2014 at 1:03pm
 
Hi all. I'm new to this forum, so let me introduce myself. I'm 21 years old, born in America, but my mom is Lao, father is American. I can speak Lao, and I can also read and write it.

I want to go to Laos to get a traditional country girl wife, not a city type girl like the ones shown in the other threads.

I like Hmong girls especially because I think they are very beautiful. I've heard that Hmong girls are very good wives.

Does Lao law allow for foreigners to get married to Hmong girls? Are the laws different regarding Lao girls and Hmong girls? I also have Thai citizenship in addition to U.S. citizenship so I could take her across the border to Thailand and marry her there. I have my own place in Thailand where we could live together.

Can most Hmong girls speak Lao? I don't really speak Hmong but I am going to learn the language soon. If I can't get a Hmong girl then I will just get a regular Lao girl.

So anyways, about the paperwork, I can fill it out myself and I will not need an interpreter because I can read Lao..Lucky me..How hard do you think it will be to get a wife in Laos?

If I can't do that paperwork can I just take her across the border to Thailand and marry her there??
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Reply #1 - 19th Jan, 2014 at 2:44pm
 
Holy amazing!

Here the legitimate marriage age is 22 for man.

The average marriage age is 27 for man.

You are toooooooooooo young! Laugh

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Reply #2 - 19th Jan, 2014 at 3:58pm
 
You're kidding right ?  Grin
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Reply #3 - 20th Jan, 2014 at 12:23am
 
No, why would you think I am kidding?

I'm not planning to get married right now. Maybe when I am 25 years old. But I want a traditional girl, not a city girl like the girls in the pictures posted on these forums.

I don't like Hi-So girls, they seem to be snobbish.

Why does everyone think Hi-So girls are the best?

It's the traditional girls that make the best wives.

Anyways, most Lao people get married very young in case you haven't noticed..
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Reply #4 - 20th Jan, 2014 at 3:56pm
 
I have to agree with ya though.I think hmong girl are pretty cute.
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Reply #5 - 25th Jan, 2014 at 12:47pm
 
If you're looking for a traditional Hmong/Lao wife why don't you come work/volunteer in the country for a while. That way you'll actually get to know someone.

Reading what you've written it sounds like all you want is a cook and a maid and it is cheaper to hire one of each of those than to get married.

There's a 12-step process to a foreigner marrying a Lao National, whether Hmong, Lao or any other ethnic group. You have to visit about 10 different departments with the correct paperwork. I know, I married one and it took 15 months for the whole process from the engagement party (where you ask the parents to marry and need the village chief's approval) to the actual receipt of the marriage approval.

My wife is in her late thirties and was never married. She wanted to do the whole process herself since dealing with government bureaucracy is what she does. You can pay a facilitator who will cost from $1500-$4000 (last I heard) but it will still take at least 12 months.

My wife and I were married in Canada first (July 2012) and didn't get the Lao Government approval until April 2013). Technically we were married in every country in the world except for the one where we live, Laos. It is illegal to cohabit when not married with fines up to $5000 if the police catch you.

If just want to find a wife, live in Thailand and take her away from her family than getting the Government's approval would not be necessary. If you know Hmong/Lao culture, family is very important. You will come to visit and you won't be able to "stay" (sleep together) under the same roof while you are here. The police, especially in the villages, know exactly what's happening at all times. One day, on one of these visits, your wife won't be able to leave the country, that is, if you've even been able to get her a passport since that requires the village chiefs approval.

Come to Lao and fall in love. Then go through the whole process. It will be worth it in the end.
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Reply #6 - 25th Jan, 2014 at 4:43pm
 
Holy crap that's  alot of work.Just go to Vegas.
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Reply #7 - 25th Jan, 2014 at 11:05pm
 
Thanks you for the reply CDN Lao lover. I am not looking for just a cook/maid and I'm sorry that it seemed that way.
What I mean is that I don't want a fake westernized Lao city girl that uses Twitter/Facebook and listens to stuff like Justin Bieber.

There's plenty of that in the West so why would I go halfway across the world just to get the same thing I could get at home but requiring more effort and money?  What I meant is that I want a REAL Lao/Hmong girl.

Of course I don't plan to separate her from her family, as I'm not a cruel guy. When I said the thing about taking her across the border that was only a last resort option in case nothing else worked out for us, not my primary goal.

Anyways, I really appreciate your response because it helped me out. I don't plan to get married for a long time anyways, because I'm still doing vocational training and I am currently 21 years old. I tried college and felt it wasn't for me so now I'm working on becoming a tradesman. But my dream has always been to marry a traditional SE Asian girl.

As for the comment about Vegas, I'd rather not. If I'm going to spend a lot of money and go to the other side of the world I want someone special that I cannot get in America. The thing I love about Southeast Asian girls is their unique culture and ways of life which differs from people in the West. Most of the urbanized new generation girls are not much different from westerners in their habits these days, that is why I want to make 100% sure that I am getting a REAL Hmong/Lao girl and not an impostor.
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Reply #8 - 25th Jan, 2014 at 11:15pm
 
Also sorry for the horrible spelling. I'm using  Samsung phone with a  very tiny keypad.

I  already knew about the law barring foreigners from sleeping with Lao nationals. I considered the fact that it would be impossible to go back and visit her folks if I marry her outside Laos but it was just a last resort type of thought. How does one get work/volunteer in Laos if I may ask? I'm going to Laos this summer for just 2 months to visit. Maybe we could meet up. (If not then I'm OK with that too I just want to see most of the country)
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Reply #9 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 8:54am
 
There are many NGOs in the country that accept interns. Here in Luang Prabang you can volunteer to teach English with Pencils of Promise or, if you're in trade school, there may be other groups that could use your experience. There are normally quite a few job openings for foreigners. Easier finding one when you are here.

I understand where you're coming from with the "city" girl attitude. You might see more of that in Vientiane but less so in Savannakhet, Pakse, and even here in Luang Prabang. Depending on your future plans (where you might want to settle) it could be a major culture shock marrying a village girl (for both of you).

My wife had spent 1 year in America on an internship and worked most of her life with foreigners. I say she's more western than Asian, but has retained the Asian characteristics you are looking for.

My wife works closely with the Hmong community throughout Lao and I haven't seen or heard much if they marry outside their community.

No problem meeting up when you come to visit. Just send me a note.
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Reply #10 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 9:46am
 
The village chief is very important. pay him lots of visits with tons of fancy stuff. Grin
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Reply #11 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:30am
 
CDN Lao lover wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 8:54am:
There are many NGOs in the country that accept interns. Here in Luang Prabang you can volunteer to teach English with Pencils of Promise or, if you're in trade school, there may be other groups that could use your experience. There are normally quite a few job openings for foreigners. Easier finding one when you are here.

I understand where you're coming from with the "city" girl attitude. You might see more of that in Vientiane but less so in Savannakhet, Pakse, and even here in Luang Prabang. Depending on your future plans (where you might want to settle) it could be a major culture shock marrying a village girl (for both of you).

My wife had spent 1 year in America on an internship and worked most of her life with foreigners. I say she's more western than Asian, but has retained the Asian characteristics you are looking for.

My wife works closely with the Hmong community throughout Lao and I haven't seen or heard much if they marry outside their community.

No problem meeting up when you come to visit. Just send me a note.


Hmm your wife spent 1 yrs in the western world and she more western.I spent my entire life here and i'm more proud
being Asian. Dude you smoking crack over there ?
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Reply #12 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:35am
 
Why you are proud of be Asian? Born being Asian, then being Asian. Born being black, being black. Just let it be.

I am very proud I am still alive!!!
I am very sad I am still alive!!!

That is life.  Laugh

ba dac wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:30am:
CDN Lao lover wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 8:54am:
There are many NGOs in the country that accept interns. Here in Luang Prabang you can volunteer to teach English with Pencils of Promise or, if you're in trade school, there may be other groups that could use your experience. There are normally quite a few job openings for foreigners. Easier finding one when you are here.

I understand where you're coming from with the "city" girl attitude. You might see more of that in Vientiane but less so in Savannakhet, Pakse, and even here in Luang Prabang. Depending on your future plans (where you might want to settle) it could be a major culture shock marrying a village girl (for both of you).

My wife had spent 1 year in America on an internship and worked most of her life with foreigners. I say she's more western than Asian, but has retained the Asian characteristics you are looking for.

My wife works closely with the Hmong community throughout Lao and I haven't seen or heard much if they marry outside their community.

No problem meeting up when you come to visit. Just send me a note.


Hmm your wife spent 1 yrs in the western world and she more western.I spent my entire life here and i'm more proud
being Asian. Dude you smoking crack over there ?

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Reply #13 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:42am
 
peterpan wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:35am:
Why you are proud of be Asian? Born being Asian, then being Asian. Born being black, being black. Just let it be.

I am very proud I am still alive!!!
I am very sad I am still alive!!!

That is life. Laugh

ba dac wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:30am:
CDN Lao lover wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 8:54am:
There are many NGOs in the country that accept interns. Here in Luang Prabang you can volunteer to teach English with Pencils of Promise or, if you're in trade school, there may be other groups that could use your experience. There are normally quite a few job openings for foreigners. Easier finding one when you are here.

I understand where you're coming from with the "city" girl attitude. You might see more of that in Vientiane but less so in Savannakhet, Pakse, and even here in Luang Prabang. Depending on your future plans (where you might want to settle) it could be a major culture shock marrying a village girl (for both of you).

My wife had spent 1 year in America on an internship and worked most of her life with foreigners. I say she's more western than Asian, but has retained the Asian characteristics you are looking for.

My wife works closely with the Hmong community throughout Lao and I haven't seen or heard much if they marry outside their community.

No problem meeting up when you come to visit. Just send me a note.


Hmm your wife spent 1 yrs in the western world and she more western.I spent my entire life here and i'm more proud
being Asian. Dude you smoking crack over there ?


Grin  shut up peter you know what i mean.Yes i'm happy i'm
still breathing. I need a vacation too . Dammit
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Reply #14 - 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:48am
 
Why not talk to your boss saying you will have a vacation. Then, enjoy your bachelorship in Vientiane fancy nightclub?

No vacation, it is very sad to live.  Laugh

ba dac wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:42am:
peterpan wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:35am:
Why you are proud of be Asian? Born being Asian, then being Asian. Born being black, being black. Just let it be.

I am very proud I am still alive!!!
I am very sad I am still alive!!!

That is life. Laugh

ba dac wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 11:30am:
CDN Lao lover wrote on 26th Jan, 2014 at 8:54am:
There are many NGOs in the country that accept interns. Here in Luang Prabang you can volunteer to teach English with Pencils of Promise or, if you're in trade school, there may be other groups that could use your experience. There are normally quite a few job openings for foreigners. Easier finding one when you are here.

I understand where you're coming from with the "city" girl attitude. You might see more of that in Vientiane but less so in Savannakhet, Pakse, and even here in Luang Prabang. Depending on your future plans (where you might want to settle) it could be a major culture shock marrying a village girl (for both of you).

My wife had spent 1 year in America on an internship and worked most of her life with foreigners. I say she's more western than Asian, but has retained the Asian characteristics you are looking for.

My wife works closely with the Hmong community throughout Lao and I haven't seen or heard much if they marry outside their community.

No problem meeting up when you come to visit. Just send me a note.


Hmm your wife spent 1 yrs in the western world and she more western.I spent my entire life here and i'm more proud
being Asian. Dude you smoking crack over there ?


Grin shut up peter you know what i mean.Yes i'm happy i'm
still breathing. I need a vacation too . Dammit

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